A California mom has demonstrated how she sets boundaries with her still breastfeeding toddler by having her put her hands in her lap and wait for her to lift her shirt before she can start breastfeeding.
Mikaela De La Myco, known as @mamadelamyco on social media, shared a ICT Tac video of herself asking her two-year-old son, Marten, a series of questions before letting him breastfeed, explaining that she almost stopped prolonged breastfeeding out of frustration.
At the start of the clip, titled “Breastfeeding My Toddler: A Conversation About Limits,” the mother asked her son if he wanted “leche,” the Spanish word for “milk.” After Marten said, “Yeah,” she replied, “OK, where do your hands go.”
Mikaela De La Myco demonstrated how she sets boundaries with her two-year-old son, Marten, who is still breastfeeding, in a viral TikTok video
The California mum, known as @mamadelamyco on social media, filmed herself asking her son a series of questions before he started breastfeeding
Marten put his hands on his knees, showing he knew how not to grab his mother’s breast without her consent.
De La Myco then asked him which breast he wanted to breastfeed. After he chose, she held up her hand to stop him from grabbing her, reminding him, “Mom does.”
The TikToker noted in the on-screen text that his son was often “annoyed” and “uncomfortable” waiting at this point, and that’s something they “went through.”
Marten didn’t start breastfeeding until his mother gave him the go-ahead.
‘Another?’ she asked before letting her son switch breasts.
‘Honestly, I know this probably sounds weird to a lot of people, but I ALMOST quit [breastfeeding] because it was so hard to accomplish without good extended breastfeeding models,” she wrote at the end of the video. ‘Is that ‘rude’ to you?
She asked Marten to choose the breast he wanted to feed on and place his hands in her lap until she was ready.
De La Myco raised his hand to stop him from grabbing it, reminding him: “Mom does it”
The TikTok has been viewed over 7.9 million times and sparked a debate in the comments over whether her son is “too old” to breastfeed.
Many moms raved about @mamadelamyco and shared their own extended breastfeeding stories. Others have admitted they think Marten shouldn’t breastfeed at his age.
‘I think [you’re] do a wonderful job. Went at 3 with my youngest and I definitely taught her nursing etiquette,’ one person wrote.
‘I think he’s too old… just my opinion – I feel like at this point it’s more about you than you don’t want to let go [than] its benefit. It could be harmful late,” another replied.
“It feels weird because modern society has decided that the most natural thing is inappropriate,” someone else remarked.
the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that infants be exclusively breastfed for about the first six months with continued breastfeeding for a year or more while they are introduced to appropriate complementary foods.
The TikToker noted in onscreen text that his son was often “annoyed” and “uncomfortable” waiting at this point, and that’s something they’ve been “working on”
Marten only started breastfeeding when his mother gave him the green light
‘Another?’ she asked before letting her son switch breasts
A number of people who commented on De La Myco’s video pointed out that prolonged breastfeeding is common in other cultures and should not be looked down upon in the United States.
The American Academy of American Physicians (AAFP) notes that breastfeeding beyond infancy is “not the cultural norm in the United States,” but “there is no evidence that prolonged breastfeeding is harmful to either parent or child “.
According to research on natural weaning, which allows children to stop breastfeeding on their own schedule, Marten is right.
the National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI) states that “when natural weaning is practiced, complete weaning usually takes place between two and four years of age”.
De La Myco, a plant medicine educator who specializes in healing the womb, said Yahoo Life that she started teaching her son “breastfeeding ways” in February because breastfeeding was getting harder and harder as he got older.
‘He doesn’t bite, but he would pull a little [my breast],’ she explained. ‘He turned his head and I was like, ‘Don’t you realize I’m attached to you?’
De La Myco explained in the on-screen text that she almost stopped prolonged breastfeeding due to the difficulties they were having.
The TikTok has been viewed 7.9 million times and many have praised De La Myco for teaching his son limits. However, others claimed the toddler was ‘too old’ to breastfeed.
The toddler, who used to breastfeed on demand, grabbed his mother and tugged on his shirt instead of self-soothing when seeking comfort. It got to the point that she felt “very disrespectful” and was ready to quit.
Her partner and mother also expressed concern that her breastfeeding relationship with Marten was “unhealthy”.
De La Myco said she no longer breastfeeds her son in the middle of the night and after he goes to bed he cannot breastfeed until the next morning. She also limited the length of her feedings by adding a countdown timer.
As her viral video showed, the communication helped her establish boundaries with Martin, who was “quick enough” to pick up on her age-appropriate cues that she needs physical space.
De La Myco added that she now plans to continue breastfeeding Marten until he decides he is ready to quit.
“Implementing a few small changes to the way we breastfeed has made all the difference in the world and made me want to keep going and not really stop,” she told Yahoo Life. . want to.’